Say out loud, "I am worthy of love." Was that uncomfortable for you? Do you feel it is true? Does it feel forced? Did your internal tape recording kick in saying, "If I was thinner, smarter, wealthier, better looking, I would be worthy." Whether you ARE worthy or not doesn't matter. What matters is . . . that you BELIEVE you are worthy.
I just listened to a TED talk by Brene Brown called The Power of Vulnerability. You can watch this inspirational video here:
Through extensive research, Brown has found that the people who have the greatest sense of worthiness have four things in common:
1. The courage to be imperfect
2. The compassion to be kind to themselves and other
3. Connections with others because of their authentic-ness
4. The willingness to step into vulnerability
I love this, especially the imperfect part. I have been on a self-improvement path my whole life. Some years back I created an Intention Tree, where I hung several plaques I created out of Sculpey Clay, wire and letter stamps. Each plaque established my intention for a section of my life, including finances, husband, friends, home, job, and me. On my husband's plaque, I wrote, "I m perfect." There is a dual meaning: I'm perfect and imperfect, using the same letters. We are all perfectly imperfect. It was my intention that I'm perfect as a partner, while I am imperfect as a person. Regardless, I am deserving of my husband's love.
Accepting our imperfections does not mean we have the license to be a jerk to others or continue to make bad choices. It means that we need to understand the circumstances of our lives, what we have experienced in our past and love ourselves. We are a culmination of our experiences, good and bad, and that makes us unique and valuable.
We need to move ahead with understanding and self love, make authentic connections, be kind to ourselves and others and live our next days better than our past. We are worthy of love based not on who we are, but rather because we are.
Feeling worthy is easier said than done, right?
Try this . . . set the intention or theme of your year as, "I am worthy," like you might establish a new year's resolution. Tape these words to your bathroom mirror or car steering wheel, or create an intention plaque as a constant reminder of this intention. Within a relatively short time you will be presented with situations that help you understand your worthiness. It may take a year or two to actually FEEL worthy, the key is to remain open to it. Watch for situations that demonstrate your own worthiness to you, without expectation. This could be the opportunity to help someone out. Perhaps a friend actually takes your advice. Setting the intention and constantly reminding yourself of your desire will help you get there. Daily, weekly, or monthly (whatever works for you) check in with yourself to see how you feel.
Please report back on your worthiness progress or join the conversations on the Beckons Yoga Clothing FaceBook page. I would love to hear what you think.